Fondness and Admiration in Relationships: Why Expressing Respect and Appreciation Matters

Dr Arati Bh
May 16
2 min read

By SereinMind | Dr. Arati Bhatt, Counseling Psychologist

In every strong and thriving relationship, there exists a powerful emotional undercurrent that often goes unnoticed: fondness and admiration. These may seem like simple feelings, but they serve as the emotional glue that holds couples together through the storms of life.

As Dr. John Gottman—renowned relationship researcher—suggests, cultivating a deep sense of admiration for your partner is not just a pleasant feeling; it’s a key predictor of long-term relationship success. And as Dr. Arati Bhatt from SereinMind emphasises, affection and respect must be expressed regularly to create emotional safety and stability in a partnership.

What Are Fondness and Admiration?

Fondness refers to your ability to cherish and feel affection toward your partner. Admiration is about respecting and appreciating their qualities, behaviours, and strengths.

When both are expressed and reciprocated:

Trust deepens
Emotional intimacy increases
Conflicts become less destructive
Relationship satisfaction rises

Without these, relationships often fall into the trap of criticism, contempt, and emotional distance.

Why Do They Matter?

They Are the Antidote to Contempt-According to Dr. Gottman, contempt is the most toxic communication pattern. Fondness and admiration neutralise negativity and keep couples from spiralling into blame or disrespect.
They Help You Remember the Good During the Bad-In tough times, having a strong foundation of appreciation helps partners hold onto each other, instead of turning away.
They Reinforce Emotional Security-Feeling valued helps reduce anxiety, insecurity, and emotional withdrawal.

How to Build Fondness and Admiration Daily

1. Notice and Name the Good

Take time to say things like:

“I admire your patience.”
“Thank you for handling that situation with grace.”
Tip from Dr. Arati Bhatt: “The human brain has a negativity bias. Overcome it by intentionally noticing small acts of kindness.”

2. Revisit Shared Moments

Go back to your favourite memories:

“Remember our first trip together?”
“I loved the way you supported me during my job change.”

This reminds both partners why they fell in love in the first place.

3. Create a Ritual of Appreciation

End each day by sharing one thing you appreciated about your partner. Keep it simple but consistent.

4. Compliment in Front of Others

Public appreciation is powerful. A few words in front of family or friends can boost both self-worth and relational pride.

5. Write It Down

Leave little notes or texts like:

“Thinking of how lucky I am to have you.”
“You inspire me with your dedication.”

Insights from SereinMind

At SereinMind.com, Dr. Arati Bhatt emphasises relationship mindfulness as a key to emotional well-being. In her sessions, couples are guided through:

Emotional reconnection
Healthy conflict handling
Rebuilding trust through micro-expressions of love

“Most couples don’t fall out of love—they forget to express it,” says Dr. Bhatt.

You can also explore her post on affection here: How to Become More Affectionate: A Guide to Deepening Emotional Connections

A relationship doesn’t thrive on grand gestures alone—it flourishes in the small, consistent moments of appreciation. By actively nurturing fondness and admiration, you’re not just preventing disconnection—you’re building a sanctuary of trust, love, and growth.

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