Is Masturbation Normal? A Psychologist’s Perspective on Shame-Free Self-Awareness

By SereinMind | In Association with Dr. Arati Bhatt, Counseling Psychologist

Despite being one of the most common and natural expressions of sexuality, masturbation is still shrouded in secrecy, cultural taboos, and shame. This silence often leaves people—especially young adults—confused, anxious, or even guilty about their bodies.

So let’s set the record straight: Yes, masturbation is completely normal.

What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the act of stimulating one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. It is practiced by people of all genders and sexual orientations.

It is not a “problem” unless it becomes compulsive or interferes with one’s daily life.

Dr. Arati Bhatt, founder of SereinMind.com, emphasises:“Masturbation can be a tool for emotional balance, stress relief, and deeper self-awareness. It’s not about guilt or dirtiness—it's about personal understanding and respect.”

Why Do People Masturbate?

There are many reasons people engage in self-pleasure:

• To explore their own body and desires

• For stress relief or emotional release

• To fall asleep more easily

• As a safe sexual outlet without risks

• To maintain sexual health and function

Far from being harmful, masturbation can be an important part of emotional and psychological well-being, especially when approached with mindfulness.

Is It Harmful?

Masturbation is not harmful in itself. However, it can become unhealthy when:

• It is done compulsively (inability to stop despite negative impact)

• It replaces all forms of social or emotional intimacy

• It is used to avoid processing difficult emotions

• It is accompanied by overwhelming shame or guilt

If these signs are present, it may indicate deeper psychological stress. In such cases, professional counselling is recommended.

Mental and Emotional Benefits

Reduces Stress

Masturbation releases endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin—natural chemicals that promote relaxation and happiness.

Improves Sleep Quality

The post-orgasmic state helps people unwind, making it easier to fall asleep.

Boosts Self-Esteem and Body Awareness

Learning what brings you pleasure helps foster sexual confidence and positive body image.

Enhances Relationship Communication

Partners who understand their own desires are often better at communicating them—improving intimacy and satisfaction.

Busting Common Myths

❌ Myth	✅ Fact
Masturbation causes physical weakness	No scientific evidence supports this. It doesn’t weaken muscles or stamina.
It lowers sexual performance	Regular masturbation can actually help reduce performance anxiety.
Only people without partners masturbate	Many individuals in happy relationships also practice self-pleasure.
It is dirty or sinful	It is a natural act. Shame is often socially or culturally conditioned.

What Dr. Arati Bhatt Recommends

As a counselling psychologist at SereinMind, Dr. Arati Bhatt works with individuals dealing with:

• Sexual shame and anxiety

• Emotional suppression

• Relationship dissatisfaction

• Stress and body image issues

Her approach includes:

• Sex-positive therapy

• CBT for shame and anxiety

• Mindfulness practices

• Self-compassion techniques

  “We don’t talk enough about healthy sexuality. My goal is to help individuals feel safe in their bodies and confident in their choices—without judgment.”

  
  

For Parents and Educators

If you’re a parent or educator, it’s important to:

• Avoid using fear or shame when children ask about sexuality

• Encourage open, age-appropriate dialogue about body awareness

• Model respectful attitudes toward emotional and physical health

  
  

Masturbation is not something to be ashamed of. It’s a normal part of human sexuality and can even support mental and physical health when practiced mindfully. In a world where sexual topics are often met with stigma, let’s begin with truth: your body is not something to be ashamed of.

Need Professional Guidance?

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