Love Languages and Why They Matter in Therapy
- Dr Arati Bh
- May 12
- 3 min read
We all give and receive love differently—and understanding these differences can transform a struggling relationship into a thriving one.Often, partners feel unloved not because love isn’t present, but because it’s not being expressed in a way they recognise. Every person expresses and receives love differently. What makes one person feel loved might go unnoticed by another. This is where the concept of love languages becomes a powerful tool—not just in relationships, but also in therapy. Understanding your own love language, and that of your partner, can bridge emotional gaps, resolve misunderstandings, and create a deeper emotional connection.
At SereinMind, Dr. Arati Bhatt, a respected counselling psychologist in Gurgaon, often incorporates the concept of love languages into individual and relationship therapy to help couples and individuals reconnect with themselves and each other through intentional, emotionally attuned communication.
What Are the 5 Love Languages?
The term "love languages" was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman and includes five primary ways people give and receive love:
Words of Affirmation – Expressing love through compliments, encouragement, or kind words.
Acts of Service – Showing love through helpful actions, support, or doing something thoughtful.
Receiving Gifts – Valuing meaningful, symbolic, or thoughtful gifts—not materialism, but the act of being considered.
Quality Time – Feeling most loved through undivided attention, deep conversation, or shared experiences.
Physical Touch – Hugs, kisses, holding hands, or any loving physical contact that conveys emotional closeness.
When love is not expressed in a person’s primary language, they might feel emotionally disconnected, even if their partner is trying in other ways.
Why Love Languages Matter in Therapy
Many relationship struggles are not rooted in a lack of love—but in a lack of understanding how love is communicated and received. Therapy can help:
Identify each partner’s primary and secondary love languages
Address feelings of emotional neglect or disconnection
Reduce assumptions and unmet expectations
Rebuild emotional intimacy through intentional connection
Replace frustration with compassion and clarity
Online or Offline counselling is also available at SereinMind for couples or individuals wanting to improve their relationships.
Common Love Language Conflicts
One partner needs verbal affirmation, the other prefers acts of service
One gives gifts to show love, but the other longs for quality time
A physically affectionate partner may feel rejected if touch is not reciprocated
The non-verbal partner may not understand the importance of kind words for their spouse
In these cases, both people may love each other deeply, but feel unseen or unloved due to different emotional languages. Therapy helps decode and translate those expressions in a way that’s meaningful to both.
In couples therapy with Dr. Arati Bhatt, partners learn how to express love in each other’s language, not just their own.
Love Languages in Individual Therapy
Even outside of romantic relationships, understanding your love language helps you:
Improve self-care routines
Set boundaries based on your emotional needs
Communicate better with friends, family, or coworkers
Learn what to ask for—and what to give—in relationships
Increase self-awareness and emotional intelligence
Explore our blog on Empathy in Relationships to further understand how emotional attunement enhances connection.
Love Is a Language—Learn to Speak It Fluently
Love languages are more than just a relationship trend—they are a deeply practical tool to improve emotional closeness and reduce conflict. Whether you're in a new relationship, trying to save one, or working on self-love, learning how you and others express affection can change the way you give and receive love.
👉 Book a session with Dr. Arati Bhatt at SereinMind to explore your love language and discover how it can transform your emotional connections—starting with yourself.
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